Being in a long-distance relationship can be tough. You miss your partner and crave their physical presence. While you can video chat, text, and call, it's just not the same as being together in person. That's why it's important to find creative ways to bond and make your long-distance relationship feel special.
One fun idea is to try alphabet dating! Keep reading to learn what alphabet dating is and how it can strengthen your LDR.
What is Alphabet Dating?
Alphabet dating involves planning date ideas from A to Z - 26 dates total - where each date corresponds with a letter of the alphabet.
For example, your first date could be an Animal park date for letter A. A Bakery date for letter B. A Carnival date for letter C, and so on.
The great thing about alphabet dating is it pushes you to brainstorm unique, exciting date concepts you may have never considered before. It injects playfulness and sparks creativity in your relationship, despite the distance. Planning the dates together gives you something fun to bond over during your regular chats and video calls.
Benefits of Alphabet Dating in Long-Distance Relationships
1. Strengthens communication
Brainstorming date ideas together improves communication between you and your partner. You get to learn more about each other's interests, values, and what you both find romantic or fun.
2. Injects variety
An alphabet date calendar filled with 26 different dates prevents your long-distance relationship from falling into a predictable, boring routine. It’s something new and engaging to look forward to.
3. Fosters intimacy
Yes, you can build intimacy from afar! The thought and care that goes into planning special virtual or future in-person date experiences helps you feel closer to your partner.
4. Gives you a shared activity
Alphabet dating gives you a mutual project to work on together despite the distance. You'll both enjoy exchanging ideas and anticipation as you count down to each upcoming date.
5. Allows you to explore new things
Trying 26 different date activities pushes you out of your comfort zone to experience new things either virtually or in your local area. You don't have to only stick to your usual dinner-and-movie routine.
6. Builds fond memories
Alphabet dating leads to inside jokes, stories, and sweet memories you'll cherish sharing forever. Looking back at your alphabet date calendar will be a nostalgic keepsake.
7. Has flexibility
If you can't do a particular date idea, no problem! Just rearrange your calendar. Alphabet dating still works great even if you just manage to do 10 dates.
8. Manages expectations for visits
Having regularly planned virtual dates gives you something to reliably look forward to between visits. This makes the time pass by faster.
Alphabet Date Ideas for LDR Couples from A to Z
Here are some alphabet dating ideas for long-distance relationships:
A - Arts and Crafts
Pick out cute arts and crafts kits online to do together over video chat - make vision boards, friendship bracelets, paint ceramics to mail each other.
B - Board Game Night
Play classic board games like Battleship and Scrabble together virtually using game apps, keeping score and laughing over video chat.
C - Cooking Class
Sign up for the same online cooking class to make a delicious new recipe together from your own kitchens while chatting over video.
D - Disney Movie Night
Get nostalgic in your PJs as you sync up to stream your favorite childhood Disney movies together, reminiscing after.
E - Escape Room
Select an online escape room to solve mysteries and puzzles against the clock together over video chat while putting your heads together.
F - Favorites night
Rediscover things you both love most - play each other’s top songs, watch favorite movies, make each other’s best comfort foods to enjoy together virtually.
G - Game Night
Face off in fun online games from classics like Connect Four and Battleship to drawing games and emotional IQ tests for light competition.
H: Hobby Exchange
Teach your partner about your hobby for an hour then switch - whether it’s stamp collecting, fantasy football strategy or video editing tips.
I - Intimate Questions
Grow closer by taking turns answering thoughtful relationship questions - from when you first knew it was love to secret life goals you hold. You can utilize the Couply app. Couply has tons of relationship questions, couple quizzes, and even games for both you and your partner to do together.
J - Jigsaw Puzzle Race
Order same puzzle to individually assemble against the clock on video chat, reconvening to join your pieces up close.
K - Karaoke
Belt out your favorite songs together via karaoke apps synced up over video chat, having fun with the musical performances without judgement.
L - Learn Something New
Always aspired to learn French, origami or sign language? Pick a random skill and take a class together over video.
M - Movie Marathon
Binge a movie trilogy together virtually, chatting about it as you relax into PJs with your preferred movie snacks by your side.
N - Nap Together
Unwind from your weeks by catching up before syncing up a 20 minute power nap date together over video, setting cute alarms.
O - Open when letters
Exchange sweet open when letters to read together over video chat for designated future dates - when you miss each other, fight, reunite.
P - Package exchange
Mail each other mystery care packages with favorite things - inside jokes, beloved snacks, meaningful trinkets - to unbox together over video.
Q - Quiz Each Other
Make personalized quizzes about your relationship milestones, favorite memories or inside jokes to test each other playfully over video dates.
R - Read Together
Pick out a relationship-themed book you're both interested in to read together over video dates, discussing takeaways and insights after each chapter.
S - Stargazing
Gaze at stars together through an app that simulates the night sky for each other your locations, feeling connected under the same cosmic expanse.
T - Trivia Game
Match wits in themed trivia games crafted around things you both enjoy - Harry Potter, 90s pop culture, anatomy - awarding points for correct answers.
U - Unpack Your Day
Set aside intentional space over video chat to vent about daily stressors, celebrate wins and supportively workshop solutions together.
V - Virtual Hangout
Simulate real-life dates virtually as best you can by dressing up nicely, setting the table with dinner and lighting candles before enjoying a meal together over video.
W - Wine and Cheese
Assemble the same wine and cheese pairings to compare tasting notes as you catch up over video chat, feeling sophistication with your charcuterie boards.
X - Xbox Game Night
Face off in competitive Xbox games that allow online multiplayer, talking playful smack while having fun battling your beloved from afar.
Y - Young At Heart
Reconnect with your inner child together by doing arts and crafts projects, playing flashback 90s music and reminiscing about your youth over video.
Z - Zodiac date
Research how you connect astrologically for insights on your compatibility based on your signs, planets and houses, and do activities based on your signs like star-gazing for air signs.
The possibilities are endless! Alphabet dating is a fun way to bond while long-distance dating. With some creativity and planning, you can spice up your LDR with new experiences. The shared anticipation and memories will leave you feeling emotionally closer to your partner despite the physical separation.
Tips for Planning Alphabet Dates
Here are some tips for planning fun alphabet dates for a long-distance relationship:
1. Align on Frequency
Decide how often you want to sync up for your alphabet dates - weekly, biweekly or monthly. Consistency will keep things fresh.
2. Alternate Brainstorming
Take turns coming up with date ideas for each letter so creativity is shared. Surprise each other with the plans! Color code a shared doc to track the schedule.
3. Spread Out Letter Usage
Use letters with a lot of options earlier - like B or D. Save some challenging letters for later down the line when you have to get really creative at the tail end of the alphabet.
4. Mix Up Date Type
Bounce between active dates (cooking together, workouts, games) and passive dates (movies, virtual tours, drawing date). Experience variety!
5. Incorporate Nostalgia
For some letters, revisit meaningful memories you share - the restaurant you first met at, inside jokes between you two, places from trips together.
6. Embrace Limitations
Not every date will seem magical but having lighthearted fun trying new things together is what matters. Laughter relieves the inevitable frustrations!
Be proud of prioritizing nurturing intimacy from afar. With thought and effort, an alphabet of adventures tailored to your bond can lessen distance.
Keeping intimacy alive across the miles can certainly feel challenging. But with a spirit of playfulness, vulnerability and creativity, exciting avenues emerge for nourishing bonds whilst apart.
Let the ABCs pave an adventure-filled year together - one deliberately crafted date at a time. At its core, this journey is about cherishing each other despite external separation through joy and connection.
The beauty unfolds in the commitment to show up fully on these pre-planned rendezvous. The activities themselves simply set the stage to be present. Laughter, listening, encouragement and affection ultimately forge resilience, not the alphabet itself.
Of course, realistically life may throw inevitable curveballs with missed dates or rescheduling needs. That’s okay! Grace forgives. Partners devoted to nurturing love persevere.
May the memories made spanning A to Z carry you through until the distance closes for good. For now, may the next lettered date shine bright on your calendar like a beaming lighthouse - guiding you home to each other’s hearts when storms arise.
