Ready to turn up the heat with your partner? These deliciously naughty "This or That" questions are about to make your temperature rise! Whether you're looking to spice up date night or add some sizzle to your bedtime routine, we've got 69 tantalizing choices that'll get you both hot and bothered (in the best way possible).

Think you know all your partner's secrets and desires? Think again! From mild to wild, these questions will have you blushing, giggling, and maybe even taking notes for later.

So dim the lights, pour some wine, and get ready to discover what really makes your partner tick. Trust us – this isn't your grandma's party game! 😈

Why Play "This or That" with Your Partner?

1. Discover Their Naughty Side

Let's face it—we all have secret fantasies and desires we're dying to share. This game gives you the perfect excuse to let your inner freak flag fly! You might discover your sweet, innocent partner has been harboring some deliciously dirty thoughts. Or maybe you'll finally get the courage to hint at that one thing you've been dying to try in the bedroom.

2. Build Sexual Tension

Each question is like striking a match—small sparks that build into an inferno of desire. By the time you're halfway through, don't be surprised if the game gets... interrupted. And isn't that half the fun? Consider it extended foreplay with your clothes on (for now).

3. Improve Your Bedroom Communication

Talking about sex doesn't have to feel awkward or clinical. These playful questions open the door to deeper conversations about desires, boundaries, and fantasies. Plus, it's way more fun than having "the talk" about what you like in bed!

4. Spice Up Your Routine

Been together forever? Feeling like your sex life needs a jumpstart? These questions are like a naughty defibrillator for your relationship! You'll be amazed at how a simple game can reignite that spark and have you looking at each other like horny teenagers again.

5. Create Sexy Inside Jokes

Some of these questions might become your new favorite innuendos. A seemingly innocent phrase at the grocery store will have you both grinning like guilty schoolkids, remembering your answers from the night before.

6. Perfect for Foreplay

Why rush to the main event? Build anticipation as you take turns asking and answering. Each response is another layer of excitement, another reason to inch closer to each other on the couch. By the end, you'll be more than ready for some hands-on learning!

69 Dirty This or That Questions

1. Lights on or lights off?
2. Slow and sensual or fast and intense?
3. Morning sex or midnight rendezvous?
4. Lingerie or nothing at all?
5. Foreplay all night or skip straight to it?
6. Tease or please?
7. Dominant or submissive?
8. Kisses on the neck or kisses down there?
9. Be in control or let your partner take charge?
10. Dirty talk or moaning?
11. Role play or spontaneous fun?
12. Whipped cream or chocolate syrup?
13. Be tied up or do the tying up?
14. Shower sex or bath sex?
15. Hot tub fun or beach sex?
16. Sexting all day or one steamy phone call?
17. Lingerie night or naked cuddle night?
18. Quickie or marathon session?
19. Kiss for hours or other forms of foreplay?
20. Makeout session or full-on sex?
21. Sweet and tender or rough and passionate?
22. Blindfold or no blindfold?
23. Experiment with toys or just the two of you?
24. Flirty texts or sexy voice notes?
25. Dirty dancing or striptease?
26. Mutual massage or one-way attention?
27. Making out in the car or sneaking into a public place?
28. Handcuffs or silk ties?
29. Spanking or hair pulling?
30. Be the tease or be teased?
31. Watch your partner pleasure themselves or join in?
32. Naughty photos or naughty videos?
33. Sexy lingerie or nothing but a smile?
34. Being kissed everywhere or being touched everywhere?
35. Rough bites or soft kisses?
36. Get handsy in public or wait until you're home?
37. Top or bottom?
38. Lights on to watch or completely dark?
39. Sensual massage with oils or a hot shower together?
40. Kiss for hours or jump straight to it?
41. Whisper dirty things or be completely quiet?
42. Ice cubes or candle wax?
43. Send nudes or receive nudes?
44. Talk dirty all day or let your actions speak?
45. Explore fantasies together or keep them a mystery?
46. Be tied to the bed or tie your partner?
47. Strip slowly or rip clothes off?
48. Oral or foreplay with hands?
49. Give a lap dance or receive one?
50. Sensual whispers or intense dirty talk?
51. Use toys or no toys?
52. Kiss on the lips or kiss down south?
53. Full-body massage or foot massage?
54. Take a naughty video or snap a steamy photo?
55. Naughty shower session or after-work romp?
56. Make love in the kitchen or living room?
57. Nibble on your partner's ear or kiss their neck?
58. Play with food or just each other?
59. Gaze into their eyes or keep your eyes closed?
60. Whisper sweet nothings or scream their name?
61. Be kissed everywhere or do the kissing?
62. Give or receive oral?
63. Be handcuffed or do the handcuffing?
64. Talk them through their pleasure or silently enjoy?
65. Rough makeup sex or slow, passionate sex?
66. Explore every room or stay in the bedroom?
67. Be on top or on the bottom?
68. Use ice or hot oils?
69. Tease with your hands or tease with your mouth?

69 Spicier This or That Questions

1. French kissing or deep neck kisses?

2. Being bitten or being scratched?

3. Hair grabbed or wrists held?

4. Stripped slowly or clothes torn off?

5. Lipstick marks or nail traces?

6. Teased with touches or teased with words?

7. Begging for it or being made to wait?

8. Good girl or bad girl?

9. Yes Sir or Yes Daddy?

10. Secret safe word or using traffic lights?

11. Up against the door or bent over furniture?

12. Pulled by the tie or led by the belt?

13. Soundproof room or risk being heard?

14. Caught in the act or almost caught?

15. Exhibitionist hints or voyeuristic teases?

16. Hidden toy control or surprise sensation play?

17. Dominated completely or fighting for control?

18. Multiple small ones or one big finale?

19. Edged repeatedly or quick intense release?

20. Praised for performing or degraded playfully?

21. Risky outdoor fun or semi-public teasing?

22. Sent home satisfied or kept wanting more?

23. Video call fun or steamy voice notes?

24. Tied to bed posts or bound on knees?

25. Commanding instructions or begging permission?

26. Punished for teasing or rewarded for obedience?

27. Filmed for private viewing or described in writing?

28. Surprise wake up call or midnight rendezvous?

29. Making content together or keeping mental images?

30. Leaving evidence or cleaning all traces?

31. Temperature play or sensation deprivation?

32. Impact fun or rope artistry?

33. Feathers and tickles or firm spanks?

34. Vibrating surprises or manual stimulation?

35. Overstimulated or denied stimulation?

36. Worshipped thoroughly or used roughly?

37. Marks that last days or just for the night?

38. Pain mixed with pleasure or pure pleasure?

39. Leashed and collared or cuffed and shackled?

40. Forced to watch or forced to participate?

41. Sneaky under-table teasing or obvious over-clothes touching?

42. Coded public messages or explicit private texts?

43. Quickie during lunch break or long tease all workday?

44. Playful in dressing room or frisky in darkened theater?

45. Noise-free challenge or loudest wins?

46. Leaving marks above collar or below clothes?

47. Sent home with a toy or with just memories?

48. Secret signal for "I want you" or obvious innuendos?

49. Risky elevator encounter or stairwell surprise?

50. Office fantasy or academic setting?

51. Called pet names or called naughty names?

52. Praised for performance or scolded for teasing?

53. Forbidden from release or forced to give multiple?

54. Following a script or improvising completely?

55. Detailed instructions or figuring it out yourself?

56. Earning rewards or accepting punishments?

57. Directed like a movie or posed like art?

58. Gaming with benefits or strip challenges?

59. Truth or Dare - bedroom edition?

60. One new kink per week or one wild night per month?

61. Sent to bed denied or woken up for more?

62. Weekend marathon or daily quickies?

63. Doing all the work or laying back and receiving?

64. Given a performance or giving instructions?

65. Detailed play-by-play recap or knowing smirks only?

66. Round two in dreams or morning reality?

67. Cleaned up completely or left deliciously messy?

68. Fall asleep intertwined or separate sides after?

69. One more time or save it for next time?

Making the Most of Your Answers 🔥

1. Create a "Yes/Yes" List of Matching Answers

When you both answer the same way to a spicy question, that's golden opportunity territory! Keep track of these matching desires - they're your green light for future adventures. Create a private document or note in your phone with these mutual interests. Having this list handy gives you instant inspiration for when the mood strikes, and it's incredibly hot to know you're both equally excited about the same things.

2. Schedule a Special Night to Explore New Interests

Don't let those steamy answers just stay as words! Pick a date (maybe this weekend? 😏) and plan a night dedicated to exploring some of your matching interests. Build anticipation by sending teasing texts throughout the day, prepare your space (clean sheets, anyone?), and maybe shop for some new items to enhance the experience. The anticipation is half the fun!

3. Use Answers for Inspiration in Future Sexting

Now you've got a personalized spank bank of ideas that you KNOW turn your partner on. Use these when sending steamy messages - reference specific answers they gave or scenarios you discussed. It's so much hotter when you know the fantasy hits right where they want it! Plus, it shows you were paying attention to their desires, which is foreplay in itself.

4. Make a Naughty Bucket List of Scenarios to Try

Some answers might need more planning or preparation. Create a sexy bucket list of scenarios you both want to explore eventually. Maybe it's booking that hotel room with the mirror on the ceiling, or finally trying out that roleplay idea. Having a list keeps the excitement alive and gives you sexy goals to work toward together.

5. Revisit the Game Monthly to Spice Things Up

Desires change and evolve - what wasn't your thing last month might suddenly sound intriguing now. Make this game a monthly ritual, maybe on date night? You can track how your answers change over time, and it's a guaranteed way to keep your sex life from getting stagnant. Plus, it's like foreplay for your brain!

Rules of Play 📋

1. Consent and Comfort are Paramount

This isn't just rule #1, it's the foundation everything else is built on. Both partners should feel completely comfortable saying no or expressing discomfort at any time. Being pushed out of your comfort zone can be sexy - being pushed past your boundaries isn't. Check in with each other regularly, especially when exploring new territory.

2. It's Okay to Pass on Questions

Not feeling a particular question? No problem! This game is supposed to be fun, not an interrogation. You can always say "pass" or "not today" without any explanation needed. Maybe next time that question will hit different - or maybe it's just not your thing. Both are totally fine!

3. What's Said in the Game Stays Between You

This is your safe space to express desires and fantasies. What's shared during the game is privileged information between lovers. No sharing with friends over drinks, no matter how juicy! This confidentiality creates the trust needed for true vulnerability and honesty.

4. Fantasies Don't Always Need to Become Reality

Sometimes the hottest things are better left as fantasies, and that's perfectly okay! Enjoy the mental turn-on without feeling pressured to act everything out. Some answers might be hot to think about but not practical or desirable in reality. The fantasy itself can be the destination.

5. Keep a Playful, Judgment-Free Atmosphere

This isn't a serious discussion about your sex life - it's a game! Laugh together, tease each other, and keep things light and fun. No judging or shaming responses, even in jest. The safer you both feel, the more open and honest you can be, and the hotter the game becomes!

Bonus Tip: Aftercare is Important

After an intense game (and whatever might follow 😉), take time to connect emotionally. Cuddle, talk about what you enjoyed most, and reassure each other. This helps process any vulnerable moments and strengthens your bond - plus, it's the perfect time to start planning which answer you'll explore first!

So, are you brave enough to play? Grab your partner, get comfortable, and prepare to unleash your inner vixen or lothario. Just remember – what happens during "This or That" might just end up happening in the bedroom!

And hey, if some of these questions make you blush – good! A little blushing never hurt anybody. 😏 Now, let's get to those questions, shall we?