Have you ever thought about sharing your literary adventures with your partner? 

In this guide, we're diving into the delightful world of reading together. From why it's an awesome idea to how to pick the perfect book, consider this your go-to manual for achieving bookish bliss with your significant other.

Why Should You Read with Your Partner?

1. Bonding Beyond Words

Reading together isn't just about the stories; it's about the shared experience. It creates a unique bond, fostering intimacy as you explore new worlds side by side. Trust me; there's something magical about getting lost in a book together.

2. Opening Up New Conversations

Books spark conversations. Whether you're discussing character motives, unexpected plot twists, or the author's writing style, books provide endless topics for meaningful chats. It's like a book club for two, minus the pressure of a set reading schedule.

3. Shared Memories

Ever read a book that left a mark on your soul? Imagine sharing that experience with your partner. The characters, the emotions, the "aha" moments – they become shared memories, strengthening your connection.

4. Building Empathy

Stepping into the shoes of fictional characters fosters empathy. It allows you and your partner to see the world from different perspectives, promoting understanding and compassion within your relationship.

How to Choose the Right Book

1. Explore Shared Interests

Consider your mutual hobbies, interests, or favourite genres. If you both love a good mystery or enjoy historical fiction, find a book that aligns with those shared passions.

2. Mix it up

Variety is the spice of life. Alternate between genres to keep things exciting. Maybe dive into a classic one month and opt for a contemporary bestseller the next. Keep each other on your literary toes.

3. Consider Book Length

Be mindful of each other's reading pace. If your partner is a slow reader, opting for a shorter novel might prevent any "spoiler alert" disasters. On the flip side, if you're both fast readers, challenge yourselves with a more extensive work.

4. Take Turns Choosing

Create a reading rotation where you both take turns picking the book. It's a fantastic way to discover new authors or genres you might not have explored on your own.

5. Read Aloud Together

This old-school approach is surprisingly delightful. Take turns reading chapters aloud to each other. It adds an extra layer of connection and turns your reading time into a shared performance.

6. Incorporate Personal Development

If you're both into personal growth, consider adding a self-help or motivational book to your list. It can spark conversations about your goals, dreams, and the journey you're on together.

The Must-Read List

The Best Relationship / Personal Development Books to Read as a Couple

Understanding Love Languages: "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman

• Why: Delve into the concept of love languages to better understand how you and your partner express and receive love.
• Synopsis: Gary Chapman explores the five love languages—Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. The book helps you identify your primary love language and that of your partner, fostering a deeper connection by understanding how you both express and interpret love.
• What to Discuss: Identify your primary love languages, share examples from your relationship, and discuss ways to meet each other's emotional needs.

If you'd like a preview why not read Couply’s article on this topic. And if you’re a psychology science buff, take a look at some empirical evidence to support Chapman’s theory. 

Embracing Introversion: "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain

• Why: Explore the world of introversion and extroversion, gaining insights into your and your partner's personalities.
• Synopsis: Susan Cain's "Quiet" celebrates introversion, challenging societal norms that favour extroverted qualities. It provides valuable insights into the strengths of introverted individuals and offers guidance on navigating a world that often undervalues their contributions.
• What to Discuss: Reflect on personal experiences related to introversion or extroversion, discuss how these traits manifest in your relationship, and explore ways to honour each other's preferences.

For more tips on how to navigate introvert-extrovert relationships, check out How To Make an Introvert-Extrovert Relationship Work on Couply.  

Navigating Relationships: "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

• Why: Explore the science of adult attachment styles and how they influence romantic relationships.
• Synopsis: "Attached" delves into adult attachment theory, providing insights into how attachment styles impact relationships. The book offers practical advice on understanding and navigating different attachment styles to create healthier, more secure connections.
• What to Discuss: Identify your attachment styles, discuss how they manifest in your relationship, and explore ways to create a secure emotional connection.

If you are keen to get some background on this topic beforehand, have a look at Couply’s article about different attachment styles and their effect on relationships

The Best Love Stories to Read with Your Partner

Timeless Classic: "Pride and Prejudice" by Jane Austen

• Why: Immerse yourselves in the world of Regency-era romance, wit, and social commentary.
• Synopsis: Jane Austen's "Pride and Prejudice" follows the spirited Elizabeth Bennet as she navigates love, social expectations, and personal growth. The novel explores themes of class, reputation, and the complexities of relationships.
• What to Discuss: Character dynamics, societal expectations, and how the themes in the novel resonate with contemporary relationships.

Quirky Romantic Comedy: "The Rosie Project" by Graeme Simsion

• Why: Enjoy a heartwarming and humorous story that follows an unconventional love story.
• Synopsis: "The Rosie Project" is a delightful romantic comedy about a socially awkward genetics professor, Don Tillman, who embarks on a scientific quest to find a suitable life partner. The story takes unexpected turns, challenging Don's systematic approach to love.
• What to Discuss: The unique characters, the challenges they face, and how the novel challenges traditional notions of love.

Heartfelt Romance: "Call Me by Your Name" by André Aciman

• Why: Immerse yourself in a poignant tale of love, desire, and self-discovery set against the backdrop of a sun-soaked Italian summer.
• Synopsis: André Aciman's "Call Me by Your Name" follows the passionate romance between Elio and Oliver. The novel beautifully captures the nuances of desire and the enduring impact of a fleeting summer love.
• What to Discuss: The complexities of first love, the impact of time on relationships, and the novel's exploration of identity and longing.

The Top Mystery Books to Read as a Couple

Classic Mystery: "And Then There Were None" by Agatha Christie

• Why: Embark on a riveting mystery where ten strangers are lured to an island, and one by one, they meet their demise.
• Synopsis: Agatha Christie's "And Then There Were None" is a classic whodunit that traps a diverse group of strangers on an isolated island. As the body count rises, suspense builds, leading to a shocking and satisfying conclusion.
• What to Discuss: The clever plot twists, character motivations, and the psychological tension that Christie masterfully weaves.

Mystery and Intrigue: "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" by Stieg Larsson

• Why: Get lost in a gripping mystery that combines crime, investigation, and complex character relationships.
• Synopsis: Stieg Larsson's "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" introduces journalist Mikael Blomkvist and hacker Lisbeth Salander as they investigate a wealthy family's dark secrets. The novel weaves together crime, suspense, and complex characters in a thrilling mystery
• What to Discuss: The intricate plot, character motivations, and the dynamics between the protagonists as they unravel the mystery.

Mystery Lovers' Paradise: "Gone Girl" by Gillian Flynn

• Why: A gripping thriller that will keep you both on the edge of your seats.
• Synopsis: Gillian Flynn's "Gone Girl" follows the disappearance of Amy Dunne on her fifth wedding anniversary, triggering a media frenzy. Told from the perspectives of husband Nick and diary entries from Amy, the narrative unfolds with shocking revelations and psychological twists, exploring marriage, deception, and the public perception of relationships.
• What to Discuss: Predictions, plot twists, and the brilliant, albeit twisted, minds of the characters.

What to Do During Reading Time

1. Create a Cozy Reading Nook

Set up a comfortable space for your reading sessions. Whether it's a shared couch, a blanket fort, or a dedicated reading corner, make it a place where you can both unwind.

2. Establish Reading Dates

Schedule reading dates, just like you would for a movie night. Choose a specific time, grab your books, and enjoy some quality reading time together.

3. Share Your Thoughts

Keep the conversation flowing. Share your thoughts as you read – the parts that made you laugh, gasp, or even shed a tear. It's like experiencing the book together in real-time.

4. Incorporate Snacks

Snacks and books – a match made in heaven. Whether it's a cup of tea, a bowl of popcorn, or a plate of cookies, indulge in some tasty treats during your reading sessions. Don't forget some napkins though - nobody likes a sticky book.

5. Take Breaks to Discuss

Don't wait until you finish the entire book to discuss it. Take breaks to chat about what's happening, your predictions, and how you feel about the characters' choices.

Extra tip: Consider picking books which have been turned into movies. That way, you and your partner can also plan a film night afterwards! Plus, getting into the movie vs book debate can generate interesting conversations and contribute to quality time spent with your significant other.

So, there you have it! Reading with your partner isn't just a shared activity; it's an adventure waiting to unfold. From choosing the right book to creating the perfect reading ambiance, let the magic of literature enhance your relationship. Happy reading!